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Views: Conflicted Soul

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Every time we get into a car, there is a risk of an accident. Every time we get into a relationship, there is a risk of heartbreak. We’re afraid of heartbreak, but we’re not afraid to drive? Get in!

Common sense is the insurance of heartbreak but few of us can afford this free policy. Ignorance

Views: Soul’y For The Men

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…But the ladies will read it anyway.

Ladies want to know the way men think. They would like to know why we have double standards, why we lie and lead them on, why we’re not upfront, why we’re so afraid to commit, why we don’t completely answer questions, why we have a hard time communicating

Views: Somebody Else’s Guy

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What’s a girl suppose to do when she realizes her man is someone else’s guy?

Morally you would hope she would drop him like a bad habit and forget his whole existence, but realistically she and many other women like Jocelyn Brown can’t get off their high horse and let him go.

Even though affairs have been

Views: Translucent Soul

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Discretion is advised.

Jay-Z and Beyoncé kept their relationship private – they’re happily married. Brandy announced her brief stint with Flo-Rida on a VH1 reality show and they didn’t make it past date one.

The appeal of privacy has become so appealing that businesses have come up with several lucrative and entertaining ways to invade it. TMZ

Views: Shoe Souls

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Sure, relationships don’t work out and couples split, but when there’s a pattern of serial monogamy and break-ups, one begins to question the individuals involved. There was a time when you could predict the beauty of literature based upon it’s exterior binding

Views: Soul Ready

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Well let me say this right now–Alicia’s soothing voice just isn’t soothing enough to get most men to settle down. The vast majority of men aren’t ready for that “relationship talk” and if they are, they don’t even know where to begin

Views: The Make-Up Bag

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I must embarrassingly admit that when I first heard The Dream’s latest song, “Makeup Bag,” I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why he was posturing about purchasing his woman a bag to carry her cosmetics in when she gets angry with him.

Views: I-soul-ated

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Broke people are attracted to folks with money, the shy are attracted to the verbose, and the straight laced are often attracted to the witty. But when is the law of attraction taken too far?

Views: Hold On

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Ladies, when those four fabulous women of En Vogue told us to “Hold On” to our love, they were not only given us a fair warning on the consequences of taking our man for granted, they were letting us know that men need love too

Views: A Gentle Soul

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Being a gentleman doesn’t require suspenders & a bow tie doesn’t mean being a bore. The contemporary gentleman is appealing, intelligent, charming, ambitious, cultured and classic, but most importantly, he’s a man.

Views: Age Ain’t Nothing But A Number

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According to Chi-Ali and Aaliyah, age is nothing but a number. They believed dating someone older or younger than you really shouldn’t matter because true love has no age limit. Well, it looks like they may have been right because couples today are ignoring their years apart and focusing on their love together.

Views: Computer Love

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Do you all remember “Computer Love” by Roger and Zapp, from back in the day? With that infamous talk box sound that made the song a number one hit. Well, they were probably the first pioneers of the talk box on record, and it looks like they may have also been the pioneers of online or “computer” dating.

Views: Soul-ed for Gold

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I had stones to throw, they would be made of gold. And if I threw these gold stones at a gold-digging woman, she certainly wouldn’t be afraid of getting hit–she would catch each one and thank me later!

Views: Soul-cial Studies

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In a contemporary world of respect, love and equal rights for all, it seems double standards are the standard. Men and women are getting away with more and less and pointing the finger at both. It’s a dangerous lifestyle to be divided in interests or loyalties, wavering, uncertain, two-faced or half-hearted

Views: Soul Food

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Turkey is like relationships. There’s a natural order involved and you have to prep them both. You can’t reverse the process and expect good results. However, most people ignore the process and get a burnt bird.

Viewpoints: Whatta Man

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For those of you who are from the Salt-n-Pepa era you should know about their classic 1993 hit titled “Whatta Man.”

Viewpoints: Soul-ed a Dream

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Technology is sexy. It’s been known to help build amazing careers, create Academy Award-winning films and is responsible for cultivating most of your favorite albums

Viewpoints: Soul-Check

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In 1982, George Clinton suggested that all men are dogs, with his hit record, “Atomic Dog.” Twenty-eight years later there’s just no truth in that suggestion.

Viewpoints: Aint Nobody

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It’s still a mystery to me why so many men let good women go simply because they can’t or don’t appreciate her worth

Viewpoints: Call Me

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Ever since I heard the new song “Call Me” by rapper Joel Ortiz this weekend, I couldn’t get its catchy phrase out of my head. For all my old-schoolers, it reminds you of that song by Skyy that goes “call me, when you need someone to talk to / call me, satisfaction guaranteed.”

Viewpoints: What’s Love Got to Do With It?

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We ladies often believe a man truly loves us even though he may cheat, lie, or abuse us. It’s not surprising to hear a woman say “He may be with her, but he loves me” or, “Even though we fight, curse and argue, we still love each other.” Really

Viewpoints: Soul-Ties

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Popular culture and media often portray sex as a casual act that we can commit with whomever, wherever and whenever it feels right. Music often suggests that it’s okay to follow all of our sexual desires, but fails to inform us of the not so obvious consequences of Soul-Ties

Viewpoints: Soul-language

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In Jamie Foxx’s newest single, he explains that “he can’t speak French but he’ll tongue you down.” Cleverly put, but I’m sure most ladies would prefer a hello first. You don’t arrive at a destination without traveling to get there, and you don’t rush intimacy without speaking to a lady first

Viewpoints: Soul Mates

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Remember the days when being a bachelor was big business? Or when investing in the sexiest women in for portfolio increased your stock? How about when being a player was a necessary component to your cool?

Viewpoints: Say Something

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If I could say anything right now, it would be, “I am in love with the Drake and Timbaland collaboration entitled ‘Say something’.” Drake not only sounds extremely seductive demanding his need to hear some form of words, he is raising an issue on a deficiency many of us have–communication

Viewpoints: Bad Habits

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If anyone can make you feel good about having a bad habit or yearning for the sweetest taboo it is Maxwell and Sade. The sensual way Maxwell croons his addictions makes you want to satisfy his fix anytime. Plus the sexy sound of Sade’s sweetest taboo makes you want to touch the forbidden fruit.

Viewpoints: She’s Got Her Own

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A few weeks ago I wrote an article about the state of our black marriages in music and in real life titled “Let’s Get Married”. In the article I questioned our commitment to not only each other but to our quest in supporting music that represents our morals and values. Since that post, I have had many readers (specifically women) request that I address the issue that they deem is the result of their lack of matrimony – “having their own”.

Viewpoints: Lone Souls

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Despite an increase in chivalry and the return of gentleman, millions of contemporary women pride themselves on being able to take care of life on their own. Turn on the radio and you’ll hear Beyonce rallying all independent women to throw their hands up at her, while Webbie provides grammar school lessons spelling out I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T.

Viewpoints: Transform You

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It’s time to transform the old you into the new and improved you. There is no need to wait for Chris Brown, Lil’ Wayne, Swizz Beatz, or anyone else to change your life for the better because the only person that can make a difference is yourself.

Viewpoints: Let’s Get Married

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Once again black women and the lack of good black men to marry them are the topic of conversation in mainstream media. The recent segment on successful black women having everything except love on ABC’s “Dateline” has many single black women cringing once again at the hopelessness portrayed of them in their quest to find a good man

Viewpoints: It Kills Me

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As new songstress Melanie Fiona sings her lyrical homicide, “It kills me to know how much I really love you”, I’m busy dialing 911 for the millions of women who are feeling the exact same love pains. Although I know Melanie was just singing from her heart it “kills” me to know that she is not alone.

Viewpoints: Why We Should Break Up

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Breaking promises and unfaithfulness are all valid reasons to fire someone from their beau responsibilities. It’s doesn’t—or shouldn’t matter if the cheater keeps you laced in Gucci, Louis Vuitton or dives deep in the bedroom. Disloyalty and deception is wrong and should be addressed as such