You made it, but hopefully you didn’t bring everything with you. Some things–and even some–people belong in 2012. Every year of your life should represent growth. You can’t be the same person you were last year and expect any change. Even a snake knows to leave behind its dead skin in order to grow. Alicia Keys says “It’s a New Day,” and I’m telling you to quit that s***!
Quit saying, “All men are the same,” and start saying, “I date the same type of men.” Quit showing up with a full face of make up just to fake sweat at the gym. Quit posting pics from the neck up pretending to be slim. The cut and paste isn’t a workout and Photoshop isn’t a gym. Quit bleaching your beautiful brown face on Instagram, talking about “TeamLightskin.” Quit fronting with a lace-front and just let your natural hair win. Quit focusing on all that’s shallow and ignoring your beauty within. Fake hair, fake breasts, fake nails, injected lips, but you only demand real men?!?!
Quit acting like you’re interested. You chase her until she gives in. Then after the unprotected sex, you say you just want to be friends. Quit calling the broken-hearted girl crazy. You weren’t saying all that back when. She used to be cool, she used to be sane– you caused her change within. Quit acting like that baby isn’t yours. Quit saying she’s been with other men. Quit blaming this all on your father…you’re 25; he left when you were 10. Quit saying you’re a grown a** man, yet you neglect the responsibilities of grown a** men. Quit blaming it all on karma. Karma’s only a b**** if you are, my friend.
Let’s quit all these contradictions. Quit giving up on each other on a whim. We’re at war acting like we don’t need each other. She’s all you need in this life of sin. Let’s quit the Mars versus Venus talk. Let’s quit thinking there’s always something to defend. Let’s take greater strides, let’s swallow our pride. Man needs woman, and she needs him.
Progression comes with time and awareness. And if you’re old enough to read these words, you’re old enough to change. Don’t take my words so literally. Just take the message and omit the messenger’s wit. Although we’re starting anew and beginning again, some of you need to quit.
– Enitan Bereola, II
Bereola is the go-to style and etiquette impresario and public speaker. He is also the bestselling author of BEREOLAESQUE: The Contemporary Gentleman & Etiquette book for the Urban Sophisticate. He is working on his follow-up book titled, “GENTLEWOMAN: A Lady’s Etiquette Book from a Gentleman’s Perspective.” Check his Website Bereolaesque.com and @bereolaesque on Twitter as well as Facebook.