While speeding down a scenic California highway, the song “Slow Down” by Clyde Carson ironically played on my radio:
“Slow down, you know you can’t catch me / I move too fast on the gas, don’t chase me / Slow down, slow down.”
That song playing at that moment was just the necessary moment for me. It was a literal and figurative reminder to ease up on the gas on the road and in my life. “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” –Romans 8:28. What perfect timing! I was traveling too fast on that road that I completely missed the beauty of the journey. Something many of us are familiar with.
Our generation is an ambitious one, and that ambition is too often accompanied with busyness. Being busy is a blessing but we should never spend so much time working to provide for a family that we’re too busy to spend time with. We’re too often on the go, ripping and running and hardly take moments to appreciate what truly matters. I appreciate the message of slowing down, but I dislike the harsh ways in which the message can be delivered.
On September 7th I found out a childhood friend has a few lymph nodes on her lower abdomen. Out of all of my possessions I worked so many hours for, the only thing I could give her was scripture and prayer. She beat stage 3 colon cancer and we know she’ll beat this, too. –Arie’s Story.
Last Sunday my godmother scolded me about being in her city for 2 weeks and not visiting her. Work was my excuse. I was speaking at high schools in the area. That’s a weak excuse. On Saturday I picked up my mother from the airport and was rushing through our visit because I had a prior planned engagement. I made sure I was late to my event to spend extra time with my mom. I’m writing this column at my sister’s house because I don’t spend enough time with her or my nephew. I’m learning not to become so busy with life that I neglect it.
Life is about relationships and sooner or later you’ll find out what really matters – relationships with people and your relationship with God. Every life is beautiful. Don’t speed through it. Drive slow, homie.
– Enitan Bereola, II
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