While being entertained by the BET Awards on Sunday, I was equally entertained by the commentary on Twitter. Then I was offended.
“I think Kim K feels somewhat honored to be rolling with Beyoncé. She doesn’t deserve it! #BeyAintaHoe.” –Anonymous Twitter User
“Kim K was in the front row of my award’s show. She didn’t know anybody who won an award.” –Anonymous Instagram User
My response: Is it your award’s show? I missed your name in the credits. Are you suggesting non-Blacks aren’t allowed to embrace the culture? She’s dated four African-Americans publicly (including two musicians). Her current boyfriend is arguably the greatest rapper/producer of all time. I’m sure she knows a little bit about “Black” music.
“Kim K just looked so out of place at the BET Awards.” –Anonymous Twitter User
My response: In the same way Robin Thicke or Machine Gun Kelly looked out of place because they’re white? Well, they didn’t. So why did she? She had on a nice dress and behaved like a lady. I witnessed her dancing, singing along and applauding the winners.
The world seemed to be in an uproar when Kanye West brought Kim Kardashian to the BET Awards … although that’s where you’re supposed to bring a date. Then they were upset about her front row seating arrangements. Where else is the girlfriend of a superstar supposed to sit? Isn’t there more to be mad at, like the fact that you’re holding a grudge and disdain for someone you’ve never met and who hasn’t done anything to you?
Why do you hate Kim Kardashian? Is it because of the sex tape? There’s nothing wrong with making a sensual film to be kept between you and your lover. It wasn’t supposed to get out. Is it because she’s attracted to Black men and most of us are attracted to her? The lady is phenomenally attractive. Though it’s an opinion, it’s tough to argue against mass taste. Is it because she lives her life on television? Well why aren’t you pissed at Tia and Tamera Mowry for doing the same thing? This woman simply didn’t allow a negative scenario in her life to derail her – instead she let it propel her. You can learn a lesson from Kim.
I used to dislike the Kardashians because I didn’t get them and my lady always turned to their show on Sundays when football was on. But that’s a whack reason to justify disapproval. I decided to do my own research. I think the real issue people have with Kim is the thought that she hasn’t done enough to be where she is. People respect hard work. Kim K can afford shoes the price of your mortgage, dates men many women crush on and practically gets paid millions for breathing. Well Kim K does go to work. Her duties might not resemble your 9-5 tasks but she earns her income just like you.
Kim might not have a visible talent that explains her success, but who cares? It doesn’t affect you. Things only hurt when you care. If you claim you don’t care about Lady Kardashian, stop acting like you do. You don’t have to cheer her on if you don’t want to, but for God’s sake, let her be great. Kim K keeps getting attention because you keep giving it to her.
Kardashian’s last tweet read, “I’m so happy for my baby tonight! Dope performance & won some BET Awards!” She’s not concerned with your tweets. She’s somewhere in a suite eating crab meat, so have a seat. She sure did … front row.
– Enitan Bereola, II
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