“Am I supposed to change? Are you supposed to change? / Who should be hurt? Will we remain? / You need a resolution, I need a resolution / We need a resolution, we have so much confusion.” Aaliyah wasn’t talking about a New Year’s resolution in her 2001 hit song “We Need a Resolution.” New Year’s resolutions are like Post It notes from the .99-cent store – they hardly stick.
Yo, you’ve already heard it all before – “My New Year’s resolution is to lose 50 pounds!” “This year I’ll stop smoking!!” “2012 is going to be MY year!!!”–the consistent blabber from someone’s inconsistent mouth about all the changes they’re going to make in the New Year. Ha! Yeah, right. What good is annual mental ambition and chatter if it never manifests into effort or results? You’re always saying what you’re about to do, but never doing anything. Ideas that stay in the mind are just dreams. And it’s okay to dream, but even sexier to live out those dreams.
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I understand the idea of starting a new life on a new year. I’m not at all suggesting that New Year’s resolutions are a terrible idea. I even have one of my own. It’s just that many people have a habit of not being able to break habits. They begin their resolution(s) on the first of the year and by February they’re usually back to their old ways. Then they wait till next year to do it all over again.
This New Year, people will be resolving to do every last thing in the book – from breaking old habits, to beginning new habits. The problem isn’t the desire to change. The issue is waiting 365 days to change. January 1st is no different than September 2nd. Each new day should be your incentive to be better, not just each New Year.
Quit waiting to be great. The most underrated moment is this moment. Start your resolutions today because Someday isn’t a day on the calendar. Have a happy New Year!
– Enitan Bereola, II
Bereola is the go-to style and etiquette impresario, public speaker and entrepreneur. He is also the bestselling author of BEREOLAESQUE: The Contemporary Gentleman & Etiquette book for the Urban Sophisticate. He is working on his follow-up, Guide to Ladies’ Etiquette from a Gentleman’s Perspective. Check his website Bereola.com and @bereolaesque on Twitter as well as his Facebook fan page.