“Sorry Jr. / I already ruined ya / Cause you ain’t even alive / Paparazzi’s pursuing ya / Sins of a father make your life ten times harder …” Jay-Z  – “New Day,” Watch the Throne

On tonight’s MTV Video Music Awards, Beyoncé Knowles-Carter passionately performed her new song “Love on Top” while glaring in Jay-Z’s direction in the front row. “Baby it’s you / You’re the one I love / You’re the one I need / You’re the only one I see / C’mon baby it’s you …” The song ended, but she wasn’t finished. Mrs. Carter dropped her microphone, unbuttoned her purple blazer and exposed her baby bump while simultaneously rubbing her belly, nodding her head and grinning from ear to eyebrow. The look on Jay-Z’s face was the look of a proud father any expecting woman would want from her husband. Kanye and Jay celebrated like Jordan just hit the winning shot in game 6. An online status read, “It was like when Simba was presented to the world in ‘The Lion King.’”–a personal moment from a private couple that we all took part in.

But not everyone was excited for the couple. With great news follows great hate. As usual with anything Beyoncé does, Twitter was immediately on fire with comments. “Are people aware that other Black couples HAVE procreated before,” one user inquired? “Another tweet read, “Oooooh no!!! Now all these women will be poking holes in condoms trying to get pregnant now that Beyoncé’s pregnant.” There were even a few parody accounts created in honor of the fetus.

When the music stops, the blogs shut down and you turn the TV off, real life starts right back up again. The real life message in this all is to pursue your goals, then date, then marry and then have a baby. If we’re going to be so engulfed in celebrity lives and emulate what they do, then we need more husbands beaming over their wives’ pregnancies. You heard that correctly: Husbands, wives and pregnancies – all words that aren’t used in one sentence enough in our community.

Until the percentage of Black single-parent-homes decreases, we should reserve our criticism for the Carters. We haven’t seen this kind of Black family love on TV since The Cosbys and more recently, The Smiths. We should learn from this moment. For the five percent of people who will actually be affected by the pregnancy of Beyoncé, I applaud you. For the remaining of us 95 percent, let’s re-shift the focus on our relationships and ourselves. Then we can one day share the moment that we witnessed this evening: Black love.


– Enitan Bereola, II

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  1. I wish them both all the happiness in the world, they deserve it.

  2. Curtis75Black says:

    Those 2 couples (Smiths & Knowles) are the only Black couple besides The Obama’s that have their families on blast. There are plenty Black celebrity couples with fam that don’t have or allow a microscope on them. I applaud the latest for having a child but my life doesn’t revolve around that. I have things going on myself.

  3. Walter says:

    Mr. Bereoloa,

    With all due respect sir, as someone who follows you on twitter and has a copy of your book, I ask; What’s wrong with asking why? You call “hate” when someone asked “Are people aware that other Black couples HAVE procreated before,”. I too wondered the same question. Although I didn’t ask out-loud. I did wonder why do people seem happier and make a bigger deal about Jay and Bey then their best friends who are currently “with child”? Has the type of love on display really become such a rarity in our community that it is no longer the expectation and must be celebrated as an accomplishment. The great comedian Chris Rock once pointed how our expectations have lower and people say things like “I ain’t never been to jail” and expect a reward or to be celebrated.

    Please continue your good writing brother and thank you for adding our community as you do.

    Peace & Blessings,

    Walter T. Landrum III

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